All My Little Words

28 Things

Posted in Uncategorized by nickchristian on October 14, 2012

I recently approached, reached and passed my twenty-eighth birthday. As I did so it occurred to me that, although a completely arbitrary anniversary it was nevertheless my first “grown up” age and that I should, by this point, know some stuff about the world and life and people and myself. A few months before July 19th I began compiling a list of thoughts and positions and views and opinions, the thrust of which I could be reasonably certain. I recognize that some of the points read like a vile self-help book while a few are uncharacteristically (for me, I hope) saccharine in sentiment; still others are pithy and insubstantial and most need more context and qualification which I may later provide.

Ever changing, the list in its current form is below.

1. I’ve met “the one”

2. Remembering how you felt is the hardest thing ever

3. Friends and family can totally be the same thing

5. A person won’t complete you

6. People might Ω

7. If you wouldn’t turn up if they didn’t pay you, it is just a job

8. There’s nothing wrong with questioning orthodoxy or challenging convention

9. It’s not wise to always speak your mind, but never doing do is worse

10. Patriotism is stupid

11. Underpromise, over deliver ÷

12.

13. If you’re not paying for the drinks, tip the toilet attendant

14. Drunk is (mostly) context

15. Ban private schools and all schools get better

16. I overthink°

17. I can’t not write

18. Thou shalt not worship false idols*

19. You’re only the centre of your own universe

20. The lead singer is never the most interesting member of the band

21. I’d rather be a good friend than anything else

22. No-one gets it right every time – we’re all just muddling through

23. “I think being shy basically means being self-absorbed to the point that it makes it difficult to be around other people. For instance, if I’m hanging out with you, I can’t even tell whether I like you or not because I’m too worried about whether you like me.” -David Foster Wallace Σ

24. I will never complain about paying taxes or grumble about how “my money” is being spent

25. Δ

26. I can’t suffer fools gladly.

27. There is always *something* you can do. Do it.

28. I might change my mind about all of this tomorrow

Notes

Ω Relying on one other person for your emotional well-being just doesn’t seem like that good an idea to me.

Not that there’s anything wrong with taking your job seriously but it’s not as important as your health, your friends, family etc. It’s not worth getting upset about, or upsetting others over, is my point.

These two are related to each other. I’m not a big fan of submissive people, or those who view themselves as victims, basically. 27 is similar, now I think about it.

÷ Sounds like, and is, wanky business speak but applicable elsewhere. Life is generally easier if people have slightly lower expectations of you and it’s fun to pleasantly surprise.

Based on the morbid thought that if you die tomorrow, as sad as they might be, most people you know will still carry on as normal with most aspects of their lives – eating, sleeping, going to work, going to the pub etc etc. Even those for whom you’re the most important person in the world will end up there eventually. Useful for personal perspective, I think.

They might be interesting and charismatic but first and foremost they’re the ego and are seldom especially substantial.

° About people and how they might have interpreted something I might have said or done. Slightly contradicts some of the other points on this list.

* This is about “celebrity”. There’s nothing wrong with admiring people for a particular achievement or ability or characteristic they possess but what I don’t understand is the need to elevate them to a supra-human, sub-deity level.

Σ This quote has probably had more direct impact on my personality than anything else I’ve ever read. What does it matter if someone doesn’t like you if you’ve already decided you don’t especially like them?

Δ Simply perfect.

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